It was a very friendly pool party and many of the men were playing games in the pool and frolicking around with the others at the party. Based on what I have described do people who identify as gay males know enough to assume it is a gay pool party? Or is it necessary to ask two males holding hands and kissing if they identify as gay to assume they are both gay males? There were no women at the party.Īfter a couple of hours all of the people had paired off and were having drinks and holding hands and such. The pool party was thrown by a lady boy bar. All of the Thai males there were lady boys. The most noticeable difference was men with long hair and men with short hair. If I did have sex with a woman would I then be bisexual? I've never wanted to have sex with a woman. The question was would you consider two males holding hands and kissing, gay? Only men with long hair and men with short hair. That depends on what part of the world I'm in. Straight men holding hands happens all over the world.
I have a Thai friend who frequently holds my hand when I go to visit him. Now would I become bisexual if I had sex with a woman? If you didn't know that I was gay and you saw me having sex with the woman would I be straight? Neither he, his wife and kids nor I think he's gay.
Maybe the third time is a charm so I’ll try again. If you go to a pool party and see two guys holding hands and kissing are they gay? Not just holding hands, I never said that. If you go to a pool party and see two guys holding hands and kissing would you assume they are they gay? Just a simple question for men who identify as gay. If I saw two guys holding hands and kissing I'd assume they were gay. If I saw two ladyboys holding hands and kissing I'm not quite sure what I'd assume as the only direct experience I have of ladyboys is with Bambina, a poster on Thaivisa. If you called her a guy she'd rip your nuts off. If I had sex with a woman would I now be bisexual? If you saw me having sex with a woman and didn't know that I'm gay would I be straight? Edited Augby endure I've shown you mine - now you show me yours. Is this the challenge Jingthing threw out in another thread to open another thread discussing the alleged sexual orientation of "gay-looking" or "gay-acting" men" based on pre-1970's stereotypes?įor the record, I never said anything of the kind. I am growing tired of these imaginary charges so it's time I defend myself. Putting stalking types on ignore apparently doesn't always shut them up, time to respond to the blatant distortions. I did talk about how gays demanding straight acting and straight appearing are showing signs of repressed homophobia. Why would a minority group reject just being whatever they are? It is a sign of internal oppression. If you really put me on ignore, you wouldn't be able to see my post. Empty threat? And now to oppose your position in more than one thread is to stalk you? Puleeze. A number of posters really didn't finish up the discussion in the other thread, and it appears our OP has perhaps opened a serious thread about it.
You can participate reasonably, or continue to hold onto your stereotypes of what a gay man "looks like"-and remain about 40 years behind the times. I admit to the gay police, some Thai barbers DO appear stereotypically gay. The original "flippant quip" now takes on a "doctrine-like" nature. However, he's hedging now on his first statement by adding the word "some." Here goes the back-tracking. So tell us, JT, just exactly what ARE those characteristics? I would love to have a cut 'n' dried list of "gay characteristics" so I can pigeon-hole any guy I come across.īetter yet, perhaps the USA Army could post them on every barracks door so they could just toss the "don't ask/don't tell" policy. No, better yet, let's nail them to the church door, and let's have a witch-burning.Įverything you say after your opening statement is self-contradictory. It's your "mental" list (which, of course, you won't reveal) which hampers the ability of human beings to accept people for who they really are inside, rather than judging them by their "book cover." Edited Augby Fookhaht I find your position no different than the McCarthy-ites who hunted down the "communists" in 1950's Hollywood. So tell us, JT, just exactly what are those characteristics? I would love to have a cut 'n' dried list of "gay characteristics" so I can pigeon-hole any guy I come across.